When I began learning about the power of the mind and the law of attraction, I realized that I as well as most people around me, had very limiting beliefs that were actually working against me.
Most of the world doesn’t understand the power of their mind, much less the harmful beliefs they are carrying around assuming to be their truth.
In this article, I’m going to give four common limiting belief examples that most people are walking around with which are actually preventing their desires from manifesting.
How do you overcome limiting beliefs?
Overcoming limiting beliefs is honestly easier than you might think as it really has to do with just becoming aware of the belief itself.
The first step to finding a limiting belief is to look at an area in your life where you feel like you’re struggling. It could be your finances, relationships, or health for example. Whatever it is, get a sheet of paper and write your problem out at the top.
Next, while contemplating on this issue in your life, think of all the thoughts that come up about it. If your issue is low self-esteem, gently ask yourself “why do I struggle with loving myself?” Some beliefs will start bubbling to the top of your consciousness in the form of answers: I’ve done unforgivable things, I’m not normal, there’s something wrong with me, I hate the way I look, I can’t ever get it right, etc. Those are examples of beliefs someone may hold that prevents them from loving themselves.
This exercise brings your beliefs to the surface for you to realize. Sometimes even becoming fully aware of a belief can be enough to just begin slowly releasing it. Most times though, you’ll want to begin reprogramming your subconscious mind with a new belief.
This article is mostly focused on sharing the 4 common limiting beliefs many people hold, but you can read this article I wrote on the subconscious mind and how to begin reprogramming it with new beliefs that will serve you.
What are negative core beliefs?
Negative core beliefs are beliefs that are deeply ingrained in you that you don’t question and assume to be true.
These types of beliefs can be the most damaging because we assume them to be truth and not a belief. But a belief is just a thought you’ve thought many times, and beliefs are only true if you believe them to be.
When we get into quantum physics and the nature of what reality even is, we learn that we truly choose our every experience. Again, most people believe in the reality created by mass consciousness from generations past and current, which greatly limits them because mass consciousness is pretty far behind in accessing what’s truly possible for us.
Negative core beliefs are things we assume to be absolute truth, beliefs that we don’t even think are BELIEFS because we don’t realize there is another option to believe.
4 common limiting beliefs
For a very long time I was a pessimistic person. I didn’t think of myself as unhappy per se, but I wouldn’t have told you I was excited for life. I thought I was “realistic”, “logical” and bursting at the seams with “common sense.”
Little did I know I was totally holding myself back from a life that has so much more to offer. Looking back, I can see exactly where I was going wrong.
Changing these four limiting beliefs have changed my life and what I’ve been able to manifest for myself, and they can for you too.
1. I am a victim of my circumstances
Most of the world sees themselves as a victim. They take little to zero ownership of their experience and instead believe it is outside forces that make them broke, sick, unhappy, lonely, etc.
When we make ourself a victim, we take away our own power. When you blame someone else or outer circumstances for your current reality, you make your situation hopeless, because you are in essence saying you can’t change it or do anything about it. And something can be done for absolutely anything imaginable.
Every single thing in your reality is a reflection of what you have chosen to believe is true for you. It started out with a thought, turned into a chronic pattern of thinking, morphed into a belief and was sent down to your subconscious mind where it cemented itself. And once a belief makes its way down into your subconscious mind, it is then executed and put into motion. Your beliefs will always confirm your reality.
But people like to be victims. It takes the responsibility away and it gets people around to console and feel sorry for you (at least you think they do). They become enraged if this victim mentality is threatened, saying “how dare you say that I attracted this horrible situation into my life”. This is the nature of our Universe though–like attracts like.
When you understand that your thoughts are vibration and energy, you realize that you are the captain of your ship. You no longer have to let yourself thrash around in the ocean in a crappy life preserve.
Never see yourself as a victim. Get back behind the wheel of your ship and navigate it to calmer waters.
2. I have to see it before I believe it
Most people believe current reality to be all that there is. Physical reality is actually residual from past thinking. You’re actually witnessing the past when you look at current reality.
This means that in order to bring forth a desire, you must actually believe it BEFORE you see it. This is how things are created–they are made in the minds of creators first, and then manifested physically on the outside.
People believe a lot of things simply aren’t possible for them based on what they’ve seen, which as we’ve just discussed, is no basis for what can be.
My very close friend, Mama Instincts, decided she was tired of dealing with mosquito bites, so she began to shift her belief that mosquitoes affect her. When I was staying with her this past summer, I actually saw three mosquitos on her leg at the same time and later noticed she had absolutely no signs of mosquito bites, while my legs were covered with them.
Most people wouldn’t believe this to be a possibility. She used to believe mosquitos affected her and suffered from their bites, and now her body no longer reacts to them. She kept affirming to herself her new belief and once the belief made its way into her subconscious mind, it became a reality she could see.
How many things do you believe aren’t possible for you simply because you’re basing your belief on what you’ve seen for yourself or others? What’s possible for all of us if we based our possibilities not on tangible proof from the past, but on what we can imagine to be true in our minds first?
Believe it and you will eventually see it, that is the way our universe operates.
3. You have to work hard for what you want
Working hard is a virtue in our Western society. We put struggle, exhaustion and sacrifice on a pedestal so that we can feel okay about receiving good things. This stems from most of us not really feeling worthy of good things unless we work hard for them. It’s also based on a very outdated premise once again that we aren’t in a vibration based universe that yields to us what we put out vibrationally.
The more we value struggle, the more of it we get. It’s universal law.
You actually don’t have to work hard for what you want. You didn’t come here to struggle most of your experience. Sure, some struggle helps clarify what we truly want, but it was never meant to be the majority our experience.
We came to have fun, to grow, learn and discover. But mostly to have fun! Doesn’t this resonate in your bones? Don’t you absolutely love inner peace, loving others and feeling passionately alive? Of course you do, it’s your very nature.
You don’t have to work hard anymore than you have to see things first in order to believe they’re possible. You just have to hold your vision in your mind, feel it as real in your inner experience, and allow it to manifest in your outer experience. I’m not saying action won’t be taken, because it will.
When you’re in alignment, you want to take action. But the action will be irresistible to every fiber in your being. It will not feel hard.
Your only work is to make the desire vivid and real in your mind, and from there your subconscious mind will execute the desire and it will show up in the most fulfilling ways. No struggle or sacrifice needed.
4. Professionals/others know what’s best for me
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people shot down by others for not listening to the advice of a professional or a well-meaning relative/friend. From a young age we are lead to believe that someone else always knows better than we do about ourselves and that we can’t trust our feelings and thoughts.
Bring your inner child up to the surface so they can be here to read these words with you: YOU CAN TRUST YOURSELF. You are worthy of that trust.
We all have a voice inside ourselves that let us know what’s in alignment or not for us and it’s actually always playing a game of hot or cold with us.
When you’re getting really far from the truth, you feel negative emotions such as fear, depression, hate, resentment and guilt. This is your inner voice saying “COLD, YOU’RE SO COLD!! COME BACK OVER HERE WHERE I AM.”
When you’re getting really close to the truth, you feel positive emotions such as joy, love, contentment, peace, and forgiveness. This is your inner voice saying “YOU ARE SO DANG HOT, WHOOOHOOO!! THIS FEELS SO GOOD!”
I tell this to my kids all the time because it’s a great thing to understand deeply that when you’re not feeling good, it’s because your inner voice/being is not having the same thoughts as you. When you feel fear, you feel horrible because your inner being doesn’t agree with your fearful thoughts.
When you feel elated and on top of the world, you feel amazing because your inner being is soaring with you.
Stop seeking so many outside opinions and trust that all of your answers can be found within. You aren’t alone in there; you’ve got an inner being holding your hand at all times.
Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed this article! Leave me a comment below if you have any thoughts on limiting beliefs, how you’ve experienced and/or overcame them.
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Lots of love,
Jessica Dimas is the author of Anything Can Be: A Reference Guide for Applying the Law of Attraction.
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