Innately inside every feminine-cored woman is feminine radiance: a magnetic energy flow that is the full expression of who she is.
You have it and so does every other woman. It’s not something that needs to be learned or mastered, because it’s just who you are at your feminine core.
It could currently be covered up, have a protective wall around it, or perhaps it only has a dim flicker due to the pouring of your love and energy outside of yourself rather than into yourself first.
When you start to nurture and tend to your feminine energy, your radiance naturally begins to spill out in abundance; all over you and everyone else lucky enough to be in your vicinity.
You receive more smiles, offers of assistance, doors being held open, juicy conversations and interactions, favorable experiences, and pleasurable and passionate intimacy–it’s as if the whole universe is bending over backward to charm and delight you.
What exactly is feminine radiance?
When I think of feminine radiance, I think of a shining light that is uplifting, healing, and magnetic. Whereas the masculine brings presence and focus, the feminine brings flow and expression.
Every person has both masculine and feminine energies within them, but we all have a core energy that we’re most ourselves in. If your core energy is feminine, then you will feel most alive and replenished when you are connected to this energy.
The world at large tends to pull us away from feminine energy and into the masculine, so this can become exhausting if your core is feminine. If you aren’t connecting with feminine energy, you’re going to become drained and run down. Alternatively, you’ll feel energized and refreshed when you take time every day to connect with your feminine energy.
When you are flowing with life and expressing yourself fully, you are radiating your feminine light out into the world, which is so healing and needed.
Feminine radiance is an energy–a frequency, even. It’s warm, magnetic, connected, sensual, life-giving, flowing, intimate, playful…it’s an energy that flirts with life. And it’s inside every feminine-cored woman. It naturally flows out of her as a byproduct of her being in her feminine energy.
How do you connect with feminine energy?
She’s open, receptive, playful, and selfish (yes, you heard that right). She knows how precious and life-giving her energy is, and therefore honors, nurtures, and protects that energy. I don’t mean to protect in a walled-off way, but she is conscious of who and what she lets into her space.
Most of us have been told that as women we need to give of ourselves and put ourselves last. Unfortunately, this is backwards and not how the feminine was designed to be. The feminine receives first and then gives back to the world from that place of receiving.
A radiant woman isn’t haggard and depleted. She’s full of life because she fills herself. Her cup runneth OVER and delightfully spills onto the lucky others around her.
So you get feminine radiance from giving to yourself first. From tuning in, being with yourself, processing your emotions, and doing things that build you up and make you happy. From this place of fullness, your feminine radiance will shine and burst forth into a world that so desperately needs it.
How to radiate feminine energy
For every feminine-cored woman in the world that ever was and ever will be, there are as many ways to connect to feminine energy and radiance. I’m going to share eight solid ways for you to connect with and nurture the feminine radiance that’s inside of you.
1. Connect with self
Numero uno thing you want to do when desiring to cultivate feminine radiance is spend time with yourself–connecting, healing, balancing, restoring, breathing, moving, dancing, being.
Also known as “self-care” time. As I’ve always stated with self-care, there should never be a strict and rigid routine you follow (that is actually masculine), but I invite you to flow with what you need at any given time.
This means that during your self-care time you cry one day, and the next you journal, and then the following day you dance. It could look the same for a few weeks or even months, and then it changes. It only matters that you are giving yourself what you need at that moment.
Here are some ideas for connecting with self:
- taking a long bath
- slow, sensual dancing/movements
- going for a walk
- creating something
- going on a date with yourself
2. Slow down your pace of life
Western society, which is better suited for masculine energy, is fast-paced and always striving for productivity. Feminine energy is cyclical, flowing, and creative. The go-go-go mentality squashes and takes the life out of the feminine.
This is why it’s so crucial for feminine-cored women to connect with their feminine energy so that they don’t become drained and depleted from this masculine-geared society we live in.
Slow down and breathe. Walk a little slower, eat a little slower, be a little slower. When we slow down, our nervous systems are able to regulate and rebalance. Our hearts are able to process. Our minds are able to be more present with our bodies and our lives.
Feminine energy is about being…being in the stillness, the darkness, the quiet. She’s slow, sensual, and flowing versus fast, productive, and focused. She takes the time to connect, observe, and enjoy.
3. Honor your energy
Rather than calling these “boundaries” or “protecting” your energy, because those words can feel like we need to set up shields, honoring your feminine energy means respecting and caring for it. What does that look like?
The feminine is naturally receptive, and with that comes a more natural absorption of the world around you. For example, social media has the potential to be very toxic for feminine-cored women for this reason. Therefore, if you want to cultivate your feminine radiance, you want to be mindful of what outside energy you are allowing to penetrate your energy field.
Just like we ideally don’t consume drugs because they hurt our bodies, we don’t want to consume things that hurt our hearts or minds. You are a Holy Temple, in all ways, and what comes into you needs to be filtered, safe and worthy of you.
Social media accounts you follow, the video clips you watch, the people you engage with–these things that enter our fields so easily every day because of the technology in our hands–really affect our energy more than most of us realize.
Filter what you consume in order to honor, respect, and cultivate your feminine radiance. We are naturally radiant when we feel safe and loved, and in order to feel that way we need to honor what we allow to penetrate us mentally and emotionally.
4. Let yourself receive
The feminine was designed to receive, so every time that you allow yourself to receive (a compliment, a gift, a door held), you nourish and emanate with feminine radiance.
Most women have a hang-up with receiving because of the messages we’ve received growing up. We feel unworthy or selfish. We’re even taught to perform and give in order to receive, which is backwards. The truth is, the masculine lives to give to his feminine. He wants nothing more than to provide for his feminine, so why deny him that pleasure and gift?
When your cup is filled and overflowing, your beautiful radiance pours all over those around you. When the feminine receives, she gives back naturally tenfold because she’s a Creatrix and breathes life into all things and people around her. Give her a seed and she’ll give you a human. This is what I mean; from a place of fullness, a woman turns what she is given into so much more.
I allow the Universe and the masculine within me to give to my feminine. I practice receiving from myself and from those around me. It feels so wonderful to receive, and it feels even better to be able to pour all that love and joy back onto the world around me.
5. Practice feminine embodiment
The feminine lives in the body, not in the head, so if you want to connect with your feminine energy, start with the practice of feminine embodiment.
In Women’s Embodied Self: An Introduction, authors Joan Chrisler and Ingrid Johnston-Robledo describe feminine embodiment as a woman’s sense of self through the influence of her body. Most of us tend to not live in our bodies because of how much shame and trauma we carry around and within the body.
This is obviously an enormous topic that cannot be touched upon within an article, but we can also approach embodiment lightly and slowly through healing practices that gently bring us down into our bodies.
Mindfulness–being still and present with our bodies–is a very gentle way to begin to drop into your body and get comfortable there. What is she feeling, where is she holding it, what does it feel like?
Slow dancing and intuitively moving in ways that feel good help to move and release energy through the body, as well as helping you to move down out of your head. Go to YouTube and search “feminine embodiment practice” and you will find many options for ways to move and connect with your body.
Again, I highly recommend cleaning up your social media feeds and removing any account–even if its intent is positive–that makes you feel negatively about your body. There are feminine embodiment pages that have made me feel negative about my body due to the overly sexy and posed images they share. Their intent was positive, but the effect it had on me personally was negative.
Women are so bombarded with images of what our bodies should look like, feel like, taste like, and smell like that we are convinced we aren’t good enough ever. This blocks us from being embodied.
Part of embodying the feminine is also activating your own inner masculine to provide containment in order to protect the peace of feminine–this means filtering who and what gets access to your inner spaces.
You have two hearts: one is in your chest and the other is between your legs.
Your yoni–vulva, vagina, cervix, and womb–holds so much feral magic, wisdom and creative energy. It’s the portal from which every soul walking this earth originated. It also holds our trauma, not just ours but the women in our ancestral lines.
In Virgin & Whore, Camille Willmaine speaks of our heart, the Virgin, and our womb, the Whore. This is a paradox we carry of purity and passion, light and blood, soil and stars, heaven and earth. She writes that we as women are the sacred guardians of this mystery that unites the wild and holy.
There is magic between your legs, and this magic can open you, heal you and transform you. Try laying your hand over your vulva and just resting it there. Typically it doesn’t take long for an emotion to surface. Feel into that and let it surface through your whole body. We can release decades worth of trauma and energetic blockages when we’re present with the energy of our wombs.
Self-pleasuring and the healing, activating power of your orgasms gets the energy flowing through your body and creates the most magnetic, feminine radiance around you. This is especially so when it’s done with ever increasing amounts of self-love, awareness, and the intention to fully inhabit and befriend your body. I love Kim Anami's work around this!
Touch your body. Get to know it and enjoy it fully. Learn what you like and what you don’t, how you like to be touched and how you don’t. Be in an intimate relationship with yourself and witness the amount of feminine radiance you create by doing so.
7. Get playful
We take life much too seriously far too often. The feminine is playful, flirts with life and is even mischievous in the most fun of ways.
Let your hair down, woman. Get a little feral. Flirt with babies and smell the flowers. Swing at the park like you did when you were a girl and feel the air in your hair and the tickle in your stomach. Watch comedy and laugh often. Write gratitude lists and even lists of things you would love to experience or have. Enjoy them in your imagination even if they haven’t manifested into your life yet.
As Abraham Hicks says, the only reason we ever want anything is because of the feeling we think it will give us. So find ways to feel good NOW, to enjoy things NOW, even if it’s just in your imagination. Not only will you feel radiant, you will become like a radiant magnet that attracts all good things to you.
8. Adorn your body
This last one will shift your energy so much you’ll be surprised. The way we dress affects the way we carry ourselves and the way we feel throughout the day.
As women we are creative, sensual, and emotionally expressive…what does your wardrobe express about you? How does it make you feel? If it’s anything other than beautiful and radiant, it’s time to start adding new pieces in here and there.
We all have different ideas about style and what’s beautiful, so this isn’t about wearing what’s trending or forcing yourself to wear clothing that makes you uncomfortable. Now…sometimes being a little uncomfortable is okay because maybe it just means that you are used to hiding and when you wear beautiful clothing you feel unworthy or overdressed.
If that’s the case, I challenge you to wear a beautiful outfit and be slightly uncomfortable. I get asked all the time, “What are you so dressed up for?” I’ve gotten used to it. But what I’ve gotten more used to is how good I feel when I take time on my appearance.
It’s not for anyone but me. I’m the one who benefits. I feel like an entirely different person when I dress in a way that makes me feel beautiful and feminine.
If you want to turn on your feminine radiance, adorn yourself in a way that makes you feel beautiful, juicy, and alive. The way we dress affects our moods for the whole day, even if we never leave the house and no one sees us. It’s all about YOU.
To wrap up, here are the key points that were discussed in the article:
- Connect with yourself through self-care
- Slow down and enjoy the present moment
- Honor your energy field
- Allow yourself to receive (and allow others the gift of giving to you)
- Practice coming into your body
- Self-pleasure, often
- Lighten up and get playful
- Dress in a way that reflects who you are and how you want to feel
I hope you found this article to be helpful. In what ways have you found to be beneficial when it comes to connecting with your feminine energy and radiance? I’d love to hear in the comments below.
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