When you’re at the point where you’re wondering how to turn your life around, you are in a very powerful place. Your desire is strong and like an arrow pulled all the way back, your potential success is ready to soar if you’re ready to let the arrow go.
In today’s blog post, I’m going to share 7 simple ways to begin turning your life around in an easy, powerful and quick way.
Is it ever too late to change your life?
Abso-fucking-lutely NOT. If you’re still alive and breathing, it is not too late.
Even beyond age, if you’ve found yourself down a path that doesn’t feel good to you, it’s not too late to change. You could be on your death bed and it still wouldn’t be too late. Think of all the near death experiences that have been documented–that alone tells you that if a person wants to change and stay here in this life, they can do it even past the very last minute.
It doesn’t matter what condition you’re in or if you’re 120 years old, you can pivotally shift your life in a powerful way and be on a new road by tomorrow.
Because all it takes is a shift in belief.
Yes, belief. If you aren’t aware of the law of attraction, I highly suggest learning everything you can on it. Learn about the power of your beliefs and understand that you are a creator–not anything less.
How to turn turn your life around
Have you found yourself off track? Either from your normal routine and mindset, or maybe you’ve just woken up and realized “I don’t want to live like this anymore.” Yeah, I was there too a few years ago. And I frequently go off track and have to check myself back in every so often.
This post is for you if you said yes to any of the above. If you’re wanting to get back to YOU where it feels good, here’s 7 things I do personally to make my way back to myself.
1. Take responsibility for where you are
Our perspectives, attitudes, reactions, feelings, thoughts, beliefs…these are all things that we control ourselves and that affect our reality. This is a good thing because it means that you can create the life you want since you are at the wheel.
Taking responsibility for being exactly where you are gives you the power to be exactly where you want to be.
Stop blaming anyone else for anything that’s happening in your life. The reason for this is because once you do that, you no longer give your power away.
“But my mom (insert any other person you choose) is always disrespecting me and making me feel like I don’t know how to make decisions for myself” (insert any other behavior and emotional response). When I have these kinds of thoughts running through my head, I remember that everyone is just a mirror, reflecting back to me how I truly feel about my own self.
Instead of getting mad at them, thank them for showing you parts of yourself that you need to heal. Whether it’s a person or a situation, whatever it’s making you feel is really something that is living deep inside of you. It’s something you already feel about yourself. Read this post if you want to learn more about how to deal when attracting negativity from others.
So if you’re pointing fingers, just stop. Don’t point them at yourself either. Just acknowledge that no one has control over you, your emotions, or your reality. Realize and accept that you hold all of the power when it comes to your life experience.
As A Course in Miracles states, you are not responsible for your erroneous thoughts–only for their correction. This means let go of guilt, do not beat yourself up, and focus on correcting your thoughts to reflect the reality you desire.
2. Change your mindset
Your mindset will make or break you. And I’m not talking about a cute little positive mindset where you pretend to be happy and desperately try to accept a reality you’re living that isn’t making you happy. No girl, I would never tell you to do that.
I’m talking about adopting or picking back up your manifesting mindset, which means recognizing that the very thoughts, feelings, and beliefs you’re holding are literally attracting similar things into your life.
If you’ve been dwelling on shitty things, that’s why shitty things keep showing up. Start dwelling on what you LOVE so that more lovely things keep showing up.
I always tell myself I’m channeling my inner Elf (Will Ferrell) when I want to focus on the good. If you’ve never seen that movie, you must. The way he’s so loving and excited about everything is a great model to live by.
If you can focus on the negative and point out everyone’s (including yours) worst traits, try doing the opposite for a few days and watch what happens.
Sometimes, the ones we hold the most grudges against are ourselves, for past mistakes and actions we deeply regret. You can’t live a happy life if on some level you don’t believe you deserve one. Everything we experience, even the bad, helps us grow in some way. Forgive others and yourself and instead focus on the growth and expansion it caused you.
You are never made less by something that happened to you–only more. You are a soul in a human body, and your soul can never be dimmed or tainted. Your soul is here soaking up experiences so that it can expand, as well as to shine light around you as you share the unique experiences and knowledge that only you can bring to others.
Send love to others, even if they’ve hurt you. Send love to unsettling situations, because they illuminated a shadow within yourself. And send love to yourself for being brave enough to forgive, even if just for today.
4. Decide what you REALLY want
Have you thought about what you really want in life? Not what your mom wants for you, not what you want far off into the future, not what you think you can accomplish only because it’s easy–but what you want.
If money or circumstance weren’t an issue, what would your heart most long to do? Don’t worry if it feels too big for you to achieve on your own–it likely is. The magic of this universe that we live in is that it meets us more than halfway when we have a desire.
When we really know what we want, believe we can have it and expect it to happen, we set magical forces in motion that arrange the people and circumstances in our lives necessary to achieve our dream.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear. – Jack Canfield
A powerful way to turn your life around is to get clear on what you want and give a few minutes of fun, focused daydreaming to this desire every day.
5. Get intentional
Become intentional with your time. Implement something daily such as a morning routine–it can change your life! A time that you prepare for your day first without letting the outside world bombard your mind is priceless and honestly the key to inner peace.
Basically taking time for you so that you aren’t lost in your head. Also, become intentional about the kind of people and information you let come into your experience. Negative people, stories, and articles that promote hate, fear or controversy only breed more negativity and drag you down.
I wrote a post about how the law of attraction works just like your Instagram feed, and here is my list of self-care articles to help you with becoming more intentional with your time.
6. Focus on your journey with gratitude
When we’re running a marathon (and that’s what life is, a marathon, not a race) and we don’t focus on our own path because we are too busy looking around us to see where everyone else is, we start to stumble. We start wondering if we’re not good enough or why good things are happening to others and not us.
Don’t focus on anyone else but you. Be grateful for where you are and the things you have achieved. Every day is a fresh start to go after your own dreams and improve from your yesterday.
Remember that your reality is like your own stage and you can create anything on this stage that you want, regardless of what someone else is doing on their stage. If anything, they are showing you what’s possible, so send your thanks to them.
7. Start loving the hell out of yourself
Too many of us are walking around bullying ourselves day in and day out. We beat ourselves up for what we do, what we don’t do, what we think we should be doing and everything else in between!
I have really struggled to understand the concept of self-love, but I have found that just acknowledging myself is so powerful. When I’m feeling stressed about something, if I simply say “Even though I’m really upset/disconnected/scared/stressed right now, I honor and accept how I’m feeling” I can actually feel calmer almost instantly.
When we acknowledge a child’s feelings, they’re able to move on. Just acknowledge yourself. Tell yourself how much you love YOU even if it feels weird at first. These emotions within you need to be seen in order for them to be released. They don’t need more berating or avoidance.
Yeah you may have yelled–love yourself anyway.
Yeah you may have fell through on your word–love yourself anyway.
Yeah you may have hurt someone–love yourself anyway.
You’re a soul made of love, peering through this human experience so that you can experience all the emotions in order to EXPAND and so that JOY feels that much better as you navigate between the light and shadows.
Love the fuck out of yourself. You didn’t come here to be perfect and no one else came here to experience a perfect version of you either, nor you them. So stop hating on yourself and start loving this beautiful journey you’re on.
Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed this article. What’s something that helps get you back on track? I’d love to know in the comments below.
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Lots of love,
Jessica Dimas is the author of Anything Can Be: A Reference Guide for Applying the Law of Attraction. Connect with her on Facebook and Instagram for more inspiration and updates.