Do you have a sacred self-care space that’s just for you? That brings you tranquility, a reprieve from the outside world, and connection? That feels like a deep breath when you enter into it?
If not, I highly recommend creating one. I like to call self-care sacred because for me, it’s a non-negotiable aspect of my life. It’s much deeper than painting my nails or giggling while I dance around a room once a month like a lot of articles and books recommend for us women.
I’m not a teenage girl. I’m a grown ass woman who has birthed human beings out of her body and takes care of them on a daily basis, who manages the daily stresses of life, who helps supports her family financially while homeschooling and running a home, handling everyone’s emotions in the family, including her own, while trying to somewhat maintain harmony and peace.
Painting my nails or giggling alone in my room once a month just ain’t gonna cut it. Actually the latter is something that will happen if I DON’T get my real self-care in.
Real self-care will sustain you. It will give you something to look forward to during those crazy moments during the day when you feel like you’re about lose your shit. And it’s truly a non-negotiable; we NEED it to be healthy, whole, and happy.
Here’s my little space that I’ve set up which holds my most treasured self-care items and also how to set one up yourself.
1. Choose a small spot in your house for your sacred space
My spot is actually just my nightstand!
The first thing I did was completely clean it out. I didn’t want it to be junky or a place where random things are tossed. I do this every few months as well to keep the energy flowing in this space and so that it feels peaceful.
Clutter messes with you physically, mentally, and also spiritually. Make sure your space is clear and feels light. And the quietest corners of your living area is usually the best place to set up a self-care space if you can manage it.
I also like having my space next to the window because I burn a lot of incense and since I try not to smoke my husband out I’ll usually open a window!
2. Decorate to soothe
I laid a white dresser cloth on top and began collecting things that helped soothe me, and then hung up string lights around my bed post which go behind my dresser and up the side of my lamp. Hidden under one of my incense burners is the Echo Dot; I find it perfect for playing soothing playlists and sounds without taking up much space.
I also added a salt lamp and absolutely LOVE the soft glow it provides.
Overhead lighting keeps us in a place of feeling overwhelmed even if we don’t realize it. Our bodies need the dim lighting when it’s dark outside or anytime we want to retreat to a dark room to de-stress.
I of course love purchasing candles too for the soft glow they provide. One of my favorite places to get safe candles that smell amazing is from this magical little shop on Etsy.
I began collecting boxes and stands to hold my self-care items. I found the wooden box you see in the picture for a few dollars at Ross. It has beautiful etching on the top and just feels good in this space.
I also purchased incense holders as well as unfinished wood slices to hold crystals. I like to keep a lot of natural elements in my space because I find that it really helps to ground and soothe me. Especially during the months when I’m not outside much due to weather.
Other good ideas would be to put momentos in your space you hold dear; photos of loved ones, special trinkets, statues, totems, etc.
Inside my box I keep a few items from my sons (the giraffe and feather). These items hold their sweet little energy in them and I love keeping this close to me.
3. Add sacred self-care items
This will be unique to you and what you find sacred. For me, self-care is pretty much a spiritual thing. It’s connecting with the Universe/Source/Mother Earth/my higher self/my spirit guides/etc. It’s a place and time to reflect and get in touch with what I’m truly feeling and needing.
Books are a great self-care item. Think about what you’re needing or are interested in exploring, and get a few books to add to your space. I love morning reflection books; they’re quick reads once a day that help give me a bigger perspective and bring me out of my own head.
You can find a list of my favorite books here. Most mornings, I have a little self-care routine that I do which includes burning incense, reading a page from one of these books, and filling out a morning worksheet.
I frequently document my routine on Instagram (@dwellinmagic) as well if you ever want some self-care inspiration.
I also highly recommend a journal. The thing I love most about self-care is that I can go within and get whatever I need. If I’m having a problem, if I’ve been feeling out of sorts or upset over something, I know that I can journal and receive an answer. There is no guru, spiritual person or book that you need in order to figure anything out; all of the answers you need are within.
If you haven’t noticed yet, crystals are another one of my favorite self-care items. I do consider them self-care because crystals hold very high levels of pure energy (they’re used in our CELL PHONES) and their energy helps to reset ours.
Sometimes when I’m feeling burnt out or stressed, I’ll lay on my bed and lay rose quartz on my forehead down to my heart. It’s an energetic shift that’s hard to put into words, but I feel calmer and at ease. My husband loves when I lay crystals on him as well. I wrote more about crystals here in this post if you’d like to learn more about the science behind crystals.
Another one of my favorite self-care items is aromatherapy. I LOVE me some incense. The smell of good, quality incense is an instant ethereal yet grounding feel. I also instantly feel like I’m in a scared space when I light incense, so it’s good for not only stress relief but for spiritual purposes as well.
Essential and anointing oils are my other favorite aromatherapy. Here’s a few from my growing collection.
I love clearing sprays that are a combination of distilled water and essential oils or herbal essences, and usually they have small crystals in them as well. I mist these around myself and feel clearer and lighter; it sort of feel like misting on a clean slate. I also visualize the day’s negative energy being dissolved and it helps to ground me as well.
Essential oils can be diffused (that little ceramic circle with a red dot in the middle is an essential oil diffuser), they can be inhaled from the bottle or rolled onto pulse points. They can also be used for spiritual purposes.
I’ve gotten most of these items from this subscription box which I’ve been subscribed to now for the last year. You can also check out my blog post here for a list of the best witchy/spiritual subscription boxes (my favorite way to collect all of these tools).
The last item I’ll share with you is my little stash of oracle cards. If you aren’t familiar with them, they’re an amazing way to receive spiritual guidance (regardless of what you believe that higher power is, it could just be your subconscious mind). I pull cards to receive guidance, advice and support. I wrote an article here about my favorite oracle decks.
I HIGHLY recommend Sacred Rebels if you’re a “soulpreneur”, Goddess Guidance for thorough but more general guidance, and Daily Guidance from your Angels for quick daily card pulls. I have really connected and gotten amazing readings from all three of these decks.
4. Visit your sacred space at least once a day
My last tip – actually utilize your beautiful, new sacred space! It’s your retreat from the world! Take special care of it. Bless it, smudge it, keep it feeling special to you.
Self-care is a daily activity that we all need, and with a sacred space set up, it’s much easier to remember to take care of yourself and to find a reprieve from the world.
Do you have a sacred space? What do you keep in yours that helps you de-stress and ground? I’d love to hear about it!