Learning how to manifest love as an adult reminds me a lot of how to get the kitten to sit in your lap as a child. There's an energy within you that needs to be brought forth in order to experience it.
In this article, I'm going to share my experience with manifesting what we think of as love in our lives. Tapping into its energy, we not only free ourselves from misconceptions but open up to fully receiving it in ways we could've never imagined.
The law of attraction & love
When we talk about manifesting anything, we have to remind ourselves of the basics when it comes to how our universe operates.
To attract, we must first become. Like attracts like, so we can't feel the opposite way of what we're wanting to experience.
In this physical reality that we feel is so real, it's easy to project outwards onto others. The ego, when lost in delusions, can feel like it is owed something by others, when that's never where any of our power or truth is.
The others are just reflections of you. They can only ever mirror back to you the way you feel about you.
Whether we're wanting to manifest a relationship or wanting more from a current one, it all starts within us. There isn't anyway around that fundamental and universal law.
The downside to this is that you're going to have to force yourself to love life and have fun 😉
Can you manifest love with a specific person?
Let's get this question out of the way before we go any further.
In my opinion, the answer is no, you cannot. Every person has free will, as well as a bigger picture that we can't see, so I would recommend not focusing on a specific person.
Focusing on a specific person, even if that person is your partner already, will trip you up when it comes to manifesting more love into your life.
The reason being that love isn't about the others, it's about you and what you're vibrating. Like a flower who produces nectar and waits for her friends and lovers to show up, this is how you're going to be.
A flower who is producing love and open to the love that shows up matching it.
How to manifest someone to love you
Someone already does; everyone does, in fact! You're the one who needs to recognize it though in order for you to be able to perceive it in the outside world.
In order to manifest someone to love you, you have to become the essence of love itself. When you love yourself and everyone else, you will see how others already do love you. You can't see what you don't believe in.
Becoming the essence of love itself, which is what you naturally are, is like opening your door to life. You are open, vulnerable, and present in life, which makes you so deliciously irresistible!
How to manifest love into your life
Whether it's romantic love you're wanting to manifest, a friendship, more satisfaction in a current relationship, or just more love in general, below are some tips and suggestions for manifesting it into your experience.
1. Perform a factory reset
Whenever I'm manifesting anything, I like to clear my slate and take stock of where I am in order to really zero in on what it is I'm wanting to experience.
This is an opportunity to check in with your emotions, beliefs, and true desires. Clear away the old and start fresh.
- How do I currently feel about the subject of love?
- What do I interpret is lacking in my life currently?
- What would I like to begin experiencing more of?
- How do I want to feel deep down?
- What do I believe will bring me these feelings?
- Can I let this/these belief/s (the how's) go and let the universe surprise me instead?
Focus in on how you want to feel, and let go of how you think that should happen. When we conjure the feeling and let go of the how's, we allow the universe to work its magic.
2. Give what you want to receive
What we give freely without spite, blame, or expectation of return, we receive back. We trip ourselves up in who should be giving us love and how, which again stops the flow.
When we become a little love bug, to ourselves and others, we receive love back from the world, because the world is us! Change the person looking into the mirror and you change the reflection looking back, but you can't do it the other way around.
You don't even need to know how to love yourself. By tapping into the essence of love, you begin to do it naturally. When you're in the energy of love, you don't blame anyone, not even yourself. You just love, open and freely, with pure abandon.
Start loving the others around you. See them all as innocent beings just trying to do their best in this crash course we call life. See the light in them. Sprinkle love everywhere you go.
And most importantly, see yourself as an innocent being trying to do their best. Practice instantly letting things go that don't feel good, especially guilt-ridden thoughts.
3. Open yourself up
When we open ourselves up to the universe and don't demand how things need to look, we are given the gift of delightful experience after delightful experience.
Drop into the essence of love and feel it. Let it swirl around your being for a little bit. Now open yourself up to the day. Acknowledge and accept love from wherever it flows in. Truly enjoy it!
Dwelling in this essence, you'll find yourself receiving love from all over the place. Compliments, gifts, gestures of kindness, invitations and opportunities.
Let each day be a surprise. Who will the universe place in front of you to love today? What gifts of love will you receive with open and grateful arms?
Open, open, open.
4. Visualize this before sleeping
The most powerful time of the day is right before sleep. Our sleep time processes our beliefs and emotions from the day and sets up the next line of experiences based on those beliefs and emotions.
It's easy to see how most of us keep manifesting the same old same when we go to bed at night and lament on how crappy the day went, or how crappy someone behaved, or how lonely we feel.
Then we fall asleep and hand all that over to the universe with a note that says "Manifest more of this for me, please." Let's start handing over something better.
It doesn't matter which order you do these in, but these two things are super powerful.
Every night for a few minutes, you want to conjure the feeling essence of whatever it is you want to experience. Imagine the feeling of love, and then imagine any fun experiences you'd love to have in conjunction with your feeling of love.
The other exercise is to think of 5-10 things that happened in your day that felt like love. When we're so wrapped up in how love should look, we ignore the true love that was showing up in our day from other sources.
As you think of each instance of love in your day, take a moment just to delight in it and really appreciate it. It's okay if you can only find one instance in the day...I guarantee that if you do this exercise nightly, your awareness of instances will get higher.
Conjure the feeling of love and appreciation every night before falling asleep.
5. Question your thoughts
All drama is caused only from thoughts, and never from what anyone actually does. When we question the validity of our thoughts, we free ourselves from our own prisons.
When you find yourself entertaining the thought "He/she shouldn't have done that" or "I need that person in order to be happy", stop and ask yourself "Is that really true though? Can I really know that? Can I really know that it's of the highest order of things that this person do or not do what I believe they should?"
When you trust the universe/Source, you stop thinking you know what's best for others and even yourself. You let go and trust that the universe is unfolding in the highest of order for reasons you can't know or perceive for the time being.
Question the validity of your thoughts and beliefs. Know nothing, be nothing except love, and open yourself to life. It will never disappoint.
Thank you for reading, I hope you enjoyed this article and found something to take away with you.
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Jessica Dimas is the creator of Anything Can Be: A Reference Guide for Applying the Law of Attraction.