Many of us believe that everything is pretty much black and white with maybe some gray area. We believe facts about life that we’ve been told were true and then our personal experience of those facts cemented our beliefs in them.
Have you ever discovered a certain car you like or a word you’ve never heard before, and then afterwards you seem to encounter it everywhere? The car you want is on every street you drive down, a person you’re talking to happens to randomly mention the new word you’ve just learned.
Our world reflects our focus, expectations, and our beliefs. When you don’t believe something, you won’t see anything in your reality that would prove otherwise. And when you believe something very strongly, you find proof of it everywhere.
Beliefs are extremely powerful; they determine the quality of our lives! This is where the fun comes in once you realize this phenomena. You can choose new and improved beliefs – beliefs that will serve you better. If you have a belief that depresses you, you can change it. If you have a belief that’s holding you back in life, you can begin to purposely think new thoughts until you believe them, and your reality will then begin reflecting your new beliefs.
A belief is just a thought you’ve thought multiple times
A belief is nothing more than just a thought you’ve had so many times that it became “real” to you. That’s why affirmations can be so powerful because if you think about them enough times, they begin to become real beliefs to you.
Think of something that comes easily to you. Some people easily find long-lasting relationships, others easily climb the career ladder, and others easily eat whatever they want and don’t gain weight. All of these people have a belief that it’s possible for them, and therefore it is. They’ve thought this thought so many times that it became a belief. They could’ve been children when the belief developed because of what they saw around them.
I find that most beliefs do start in childhood as we observe the realities of the adults around us and from what those adults tell us to be true.
What you perceive, you believe
After you’ve thought a thought so many times, you begin witnessing proof of it. Your perceptions of the world are uniquely your own – it’s not reality to anyone but you. Everyone has on their own unique pair of spectacles through which they see the world. And for that reason, the world is a very different place for each one of us.
Some of us make a lot of money, some of us can never make enough. Some of us always get stopped at red lights, some of us coast down the roads with ease. Some of us always come across rude people, some of us always have doors held for us. It all really boils down to how we perceive the world around us, because the world will always morph to meet our perceptions, which further cement our beliefs.
What you believe, you expect
When we believe something to be true, we expect it. We may expect for people to deceive us. Or we expect to lose money anytime we finally have some extra cash to spend.
When we believe something, we subconsciously look for signs of its proof. Expecting something with almost complete and unquestioned faith is one of the fastest ways to bring that particular experience into your life, good or bad!
What you expect, you receive
Have you ever heard stories like the super healthy person who ate all organic and exercised daily but got cancer? Despite this person’s best efforts to remain healthy, they had such a deep fear about getting sick from food (which translated into a intense focus, a unique perception, a true belief to them) that they actually brought it upon themselves.
We focus on what we believe, and what we focus on will always expand in our realities. What’s so awesome about this is that we have the choice at any time to change our beliefs…to focus on new truths.
What are some beliefs you have that are holding you back? Any that are negative and not beneficial to your well-being? Is there anything in your life that you’re having a hard time obtaining? Something that you’ve never had but feel is out of your “league”? I like to take a piece of paper and write out every negative thought that comes up about a certain subject until I’ve exhausted my inner critic. This is how I find my subconscious, negative, harmful beliefs.
In my worksheet bundle, I made an outline just for this, the Discovering Self-Limiting Beliefs worksheet.
I then write the opposite of every single negative belief on the other side of the paper. New, positive, supportive beliefs. I look at these daily, usually just once or twice, until I begin to believe them. You may feel like they sound too silly to ever believe at first, but just keep looking at them and see what happens.
Change your beliefs, change your life!
Jessica Dimas is the author of Anything Can Be: A Reference Guide for Applying the Law of Attraction. Connect with her on Facebook and Instagram for more inspiration and updates.