A consistent night routine is a game-changer. Most people are on auto-pilot, with technology and other people filling their minds and space until they crash into bed.
When you understand the power of the mind, you begin realizing how potent and important a night time routine can be for your quality of life. In today's blog post, I'm sharing my nightly self-care routine that has transformed my life.
I'm a mom of two young kids so I'm not someone who has hours to kill every day. I can do this routine easily and it makes such a powerful impact on my mood and emotional well-being.
I know a lot of moms and busy people say they don't have the time or they have other things to get done while their children are sleeping, but I have two responses to this kind of thinking.
One: everyone has time. Yes you do. Your phase of motherhood may be different, but you can definitely create 10-30 minutes every day where you focus on you.
And two, just like "cobwebs can wait because babies don't keep", the cobwebs can wait because mommy's happiness and health won't keep if she never deems herself important enough to take care of.
Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel. - Eleanor Brownn
What should be my night routine?
Whatever makes you feel rebalanced, realigned, and centered. You should pick and choose from night routine ideas and never try to implement anything that you don't enjoy doing.
This is key because if you don't enjoy doing it, you're not going to want to do it! And the whole point of a night routine is to take stress off your plate, not add more to it.
Do the things that soothe your spirit. Also, don't feel like you have to do 10 things for your nightly routine. Some nights my low lit shower is the best and only thing I need to recenter. Other nights, I may feel the need to empty my mind by journaling for a few minutes. Follow your urges and needs.
What is the best night routine?
The one that works for YOU. The one that you look forward to doing. Again I repeat: do not do anything you don't enjoy.
Too many people try to exactly follow someone else's way of doing things and then wonder why they can't keep to it. Because it was never you in the first place.
Pick from other's ideas like fruit on a tree. Take what resonates and leave what doesn't. This way, you'll create a night routine that reflects who you are as a person, where you are in life, and what you specifically need.
My night routine for self-care
The best time for my night routine is after my kids are in bed. My goals during this time are to de-stress and re-center.
Written out, this all sounds like it probably takes me hours, but it doesn't. Sometimes I do all of this in 20 minutes or even less.
Part one is my how I utilize my shower time and part two is what I do before bed.
Part I: The Shower
1. Low lighting
First off, I find it very soothing to have low lighting while I shower. Spending the day with two kids is usually nonstop loudness, so a silent space with low lighting just helps me de-frazzle and relax.
I simply use a wax burner minus the wax, but I find the lighting is perfect for a bathroom.
I've also added these LED string lights around the windows of my bathroom for added low-lighting.
Every night, my shower alone is enough to help me reset. With the low lighting I'm able to instantly feel like the world is being kept at bay while I just take time to breathe.
2. Audio inspiration
I love to listen to something that resets my mind while showering. This is so powerful because we're in our heads all day, and a shower can be a place where a lot of people get even further into their thoughts and worries. Putting on something that shifts your perspective back into place is priceless.
Currently I've been on an Esther/Abraham Hicks kick. And by currently I mean the last six years.
Esther Hicks "channels" a collective spirit she calls Abraham (very strange to some, I know) but her talks are AMAZING. For any issue or problem you're having in life, simply type in "Abraham Hicks" on YouTube and follow with the topic you want to hear about. She brings me out of my head like no one else.
I also like to listen to mindset or spiritual podcast episodes or an audio book. I think it's very beneficial to listen to anything that relaxes, re-aligns, or motivates you.
3. Visualization & Deep Breaths
I chatted with a hypnotherapist the other day and she was telling me how powerful it is to add intention to your everyday routine habits. For instance in the shower, you can picture the water washing away your stresses, or imagine as you put on your lotion that you're creating a positive barrier that will keep draining people and situations at bay.
This is very stimulating for the creative mind and since your thoughts are energy waves, it's extremely powerful in manifesting more ease and inner peace into your life.
I personally love to envision the shower washing away all the stress and any mistakes I made. And every night no matter what, I like to take several deep breaths.
We forget to really breathe so much of the day. Did you know that we are designed to release 70% of the toxins in our body through breathing?
When you exhale air from your body you release carbon dioxide that has been passed through from your bloodstream into your lungs. Carbon dioxide is a natural waste of your body's metabolism. - (source)
There are surprisingly so many benefits of deep breathing, like releasing tension, pain, emotional problems, and strengthening your immune system.
Just stand in your shower and take several deep breaths. Work your way up to breathing in 7 seconds and breathing out 7 seconds, all through your nose.
Part Two: In Bed
1. Low lighting
I keep the theme of low lighting going since I really can't detest overhead lighting enough. I hung up LED lights around my bed to give a softer glow to my room.
It's a bit hard to see but here's some pics:
As you can see in the second pic, I've gotten way more creative with my self-care space. If you want to know how to create a sacred space for yourself, check out this post here.
That's the thing I love about self-care routines though–it's like following this delicious bread crumb trail; you're always going to be finding something else that deeply resonates with you and that you want to explore.
And all of it brings you back closer to yourself.
2. Self-care worksheet
Self-care worksheets honestly are the bread and butter of my self-care. I just find them so transformative because they're quick but powerful.
You know when you're pulling into a carwash and your tires have to align with the conveyer belt? That's what a self-care worksheet does–you simply and easily re-align with yourself.
A self-care worksheet is also the highlight of my morning self-care routine as well.
Reading before bed is one of my mindset hacks. When you're in bed getting a little drowsy, you're dropping down into theta brainwaves. This means your subconscious mind is very receptive to receiving information.
I will usually only read a few pages, but it's enough to recenter my perspective before falling asleep.
These are the current books on my tablet. Most of them I'm re-reading. I highlight powerful passages and then before I go to sleep, I'll re-read over the passages instead of reading the whole book.
I wrote a post on my favorite daily books for self-care and also my all-time favorite books on the law of attraction.
Lastly (but not always), I often fall asleep to a guided meditation. You can find a list of my favorite guided meditations here.
I mostly use the one by Vishen Lakhiani. It's 21 minutes long and a lot of times I fall asleep before it's over, but it's definitely my favorite guided meditation. I've also been getting into some hypnotherapy meditations recently, and there's a lot of great options on YouTube.
So to recap my nightly routine:
- Wind down with low lighting
- Make the most of your shower or bath; listen to something inspiring, take deep breaths, visualize the day washing away with the water
- Create a sacred, relaxing feel around your bed; hang lights or use a salt lamp
- Reflect with a self-care worksheet
- Read a few pages from an inspiring book to shift your mindset and mood
- End the day with a guided meditation
I hope you enjoyed this post! What are you favorite things to incorporate into your nightly self-care routine? I'd love to know in the comments below. I've also linked some other posts you might find helpful:
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Lots of love,
Jessica Dimas is the creator of Manifesting Magic with the Moon, a holistic self-care ritual bundle.
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