Self love affirmations remind you of what is true about the nature of your soul, and that's why they feel like a deep, restorative inhale.
You are love, and when you believe anything other than this, you feel bad. In this article, I'm sharing 40 self love affirmations that will bring you back to that centered place within.
Why self-love is so important
Simply put, when we truly love ourselves, we are able to fully love others and be at peace in this world. What do others have to do with self-love, especially when we so often feel as if we can love others more than we love ourselves?
Because "others" are simply an out-picturing of your own inner reality. The qualities you love and admire in another are actually qualities you have within yourself, whether they be active or latent. Also what you despise in others are the very qualities you would like to release within yourself, because they aren't who you really are.
When we fully love and accept ourselves, we become at peace with the world because we're no longer fighting against ourselves. People think they're at war with others, but it's really themselves they're at war with on a subconscious level.
Self-love is loving acceptance of what is.
It is not arguing with reality. It's authentic forgiveness, grace, compassion, and empathy. It begins small, by catching yourself when you're tearing yourself down and replacing it with a thought that says "Oh well, that's okay. I'm learning and getting the hang of this stuff more and more every day."
To me, self-love doesn't make me feel like a powerful bad ass, like some books I read promised or suggested. It feels like LOVE, for me and everyone else. I view myself and others with the same compassion and benefit of the doubt that I give to children. I don't assume the worst of myself or others. Again, "others" is so crucial here because the way you view others is a clue to the way you view yourself.
You'll know you're loving and being kind to yourself when you become aware that you are extending that to someone else in an authentic, genuine way.
How affirmations work for self-love
Affirmations are statements of belief. When you were a child, there were phrases said around you or to you repeatedly that became your own inner voice and beliefs. Maybe a parent always said "you're so selfish" or "the world is full of people out for their own good."
Now this is your own inner voice and subconscious belief. These statements were said over and over again until your mind finally accepted them, and now they play out in your world as an undeniable truth. This is exactly how affirmations work.
The only difference is is that you are (hopefully) choosing powerful and positive statements to reprogram your mind with. The more you repeat an affirmation, or statement to yourself, the more your mind accepts it. Once accepted, it then becomes a reality in your outer world.
Your outer world is a by-product of your inner world, not the other way around.
This is why affirmations are so powerful, because once they are accepted and integrated into the mind, they are then out-pictured into your world.
This is also why our beliefs about others and focus on their negative qualities only bring more of that into our reality. If you ever want to test this out, focus on the things you love about someone once a day, and watch as you begin to attract those qualities from them more often than the ones you don't like.
Our inner terrain is where we've got to plant the seeds and cultivate a new frame of mind in order to see an outer abundance. This is why affirmations for self-love are the perfect starting place for actually embodying self-love. It's all in the mind, and when we begin there, the outer follows.
A daily routine for using affirmations
There are so many ways you could go about using affirmations, because all they really are are statements that you repeat to yourself enough times that you believe them. And that's the thing–they most likely won't feel true at first, especially if you're in the habit of telling yourself the opposite.
Don't let this common feeling of silliness stop you. That's normal and natural. You are rewiring your brain circuits and implanting a new blueprint for an improved and upgraded reality. It won't feel smooth at first, but the more you walk the same trail, the flatter the grass lays and the easier it is to walk through.
I recommend starting with one affirmation below that really resonates with you and feels powerful. One of my favorites to use for self-love has been "I let myself and others off the hook." When I notice I'm tearing myself or someone else down in my mind, I stop and remind myself that I let myself and others off the hook, because we deserve it.
The inner peace that has come from this one simple affirmation has been truly life-changing because I no longer let myself go on these mental and emotional rampages of blame, anger, and unworthiness. It doesn't mean I don't ever catch myself doing it, but I come back into alignment with myself so much faster thanks to this affirmation taking root in my belief system.
Choose an affirmation, contemplate it, and start repeating it mentally every day.
When you find yourself specifically getting into an old mental pattern that you're wanting to break, repeat the affirmation to yourself and let yourself feel the truth of it as much as you're able. Every time you use it, its feeling of truth will get stronger and stronger within you, until it eventually replaces whatever old belief was in its place.
40 good affirmations for self love
1. I am always learning and expanding
2. I give and receive love with ease
3. I am the only person I can truly please
4. It is safe for me to express myself
5. I am limitless
6. I love the soul within that I am discovering
7. My needs and wishes matter
8. I am gentle and loving towards myself
9. Experiencing mistakes expands my awareness and perspective
10. It is safe for me to make mistakes
11. I allow myself to be vulnerable and loved
12. Life is easy when I allow it to be
13. I am pure, loving awareness
14. I appreciate what all of my experiences have brought me
15. I allow joyful and beautiful moments into my life
16. It is okay to say the wrong thing
17. I am centered, at peace, and grounded
18. I treasure and am kind towards the body I live in
19. I see the best in myself and others
20. The me that I try to hide is lovable, human, and precious
21. I am valuable and my voice matters
22. I surrender and adapt to change with ease
23. It is okay to not know what to do or say
24. I am a beautiful soul and person here for a reason
25. I let myself and others off the hook
26. I believe in me
27. I am the creator of my reality
28. I choose to love myself and others today
29. There is never a wrong decision made
30. I don't have all the answers, and that's okay
31. I am patient with myself and others today
32. I nourish my body with good food and enjoyable movement
33. Energy and passion for life pulse through me
34. I am safe, protected, and loved
35. I am exactly where I need to be
36. I trust that life always unfolds in divine order
37. I release regrets, grudges, and resentments
38. I allow the universe to shower me with love and joy
39. I forgive myself and others moment by moment
40. I know nothing except that I am love
Thank you for reading, I hope you enjoyed this article and found something to take away with you.
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Jessica Dimas is the author of Sacred Self-Care for Your Chakras.
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