Who knows you better than you? You. As in capital You. Your Higher Self. The part of you that is connected to the Divine and has always been with you and always will be.
Holistic self-care goes deep, touching on multiple aspects of ourselves. In this article, I'm sharing a transformative, easy and intimate self-love ritual.
What is a self-love ritual?
Most of us look for love in all the wrong places.
Meaning that most of us, subconsciously or not, look to others around us to love us deeply and unconditionally. The ironic thing about that is that most of us don't even love ourselves in that way.
Who can give you what you don't believe on a deep level that you even deserve from yourself?
And how unsettling is it to think that we would need to depend on any love that is outside of ourselves?
What if you could feel completely whole and cherished even without the love from another? How would you behave differently if your cup was filled and the love from friends and family was only a bonus?
Maybe you have felt that before, glimpses of it here and there. We all get off track as well and forget who we really are. That's why I created this self-love ritual, to help you come back to yourself when you're feeling lost.
And perhaps even to get to know yourself on a level you've never known before.
A self-love ritual will help you connect, heal and come back into alignment with all that you truly are.
Ritual tools to use
Go simple or go big, it's totally up to you! Below is what I recommend:
- Rose quartz crystal (you can get them at any metaphysical shop as well)
- A gift for yourself, from yourself
- Bath supplies (salts, candles, essential oil, special soaps, lotions, etc)
- Wine/champagne (optional)
- Oracle/tarot deck (optional)
A Ritual for Self-Love
1. Prepare your gift
Before your ritual, pick out the perfect gift for yourself. Something you've been wanting but have passed over for another time. Select beautiful wrapping paper and a gorgeous bow and wrap your gift with care.
2. Clear your space
Before you begin your ritual, make sure your space feels open and inviting to you. I always do my self-care rituals in my room, so I make sure my bed is made, the floor is picked up, and I make sure the lighting is soft.
Light candles or incense and take a few deep breaths to help bring yourself into the present moment.
3. Journal to connect within
Begin your ritual by journaling your current thoughts. Have a conversation with Yourself and really take time to reflect on how you've been doing and where you want to go.
- How have you been feeling?
- How have things been going?
- What do I want to manifest into my life?
- What am I ready to heal?
- In what ways can I bring more self-love and care into my life on a consistent basis?
4. Ritual bath
Run a hot bath and fill it with whatever you love most. I recommend adding epsom or pink Himalayan salts to detox your body and energetically clear yourself. Put your rose quartz crystal/s in the bath with you to envelop yourself with the energy of love.
You can add essential oils to your bath by adding a few drops of it in either a cup of whole milk or a few tablespoons of olive oil; pour this into your bath water and swirl it around. Jasmine is a beautiful scent and carries a sensual, feminine energy.
Set a glass of your favorite champagne or simply some cold water next to you on the ledge of your tub.
Place candles around your bath and play soothing music. I love Peter Gundry's songs; they're very mystical, relaxing, and have a special feel to them.
Let yourself sink into the water and be still. Feel yourself resetting and connecting.
5. Connect with your body
As women, and I'm sure many men can relate as well, we are disconnected from certain parts of our bodies. If you've ever been abused, sexually assaulted, raised in a religion that viewed the body as sinful, or been shamed for your sexuality, you've likely disconnected from your sexual organs.
Even if you haven't experienced the above, women in general are exposed to so much imagery of unrealistic bodies and their sexuality being sold as a commodity, that shame is a common feeling most of us carry.
I think it's a very powerful thing to begin to heal the relationship you have to certain parts of your body that you have either disconnected from or hold a low view of because you wish the body part looked different.
Shame is powerful and can eventually cause illness in our bodies. This happens as a way for your body to alert you and let you know that you need to heal certain beliefs you have about yourself and past experiences that are still hurting you.
Place your hands where it has always hurt your heart to think about, or a place on your body that makes you feel bad about yourself. For me, this is my womb area. I was disconnected from this area after years of conditioned belief that there was something wrong with me, that this area of me was "ruined" and shameful.
With your hands on your body, sending loving energy and thoughts to this area. I say "I'm so sorry I've felt sad about you for so long. I'm sorry and I love you." Repeat the words "I'm sorry" and "I love you" in your mind as many times as it feels good.
Feel the energy shift in this area of your body. Place your rose quartz crystal on top of it and send the loving intention into the crystal that you want to begin to heal and love yourself.
When you get out of the bath, put lotion or oil on your body and as you move from each body part, say the words "I love you as you are" in your mind while sending loving energy to that body part.
6. Write a love letter to yourself
After your bath, go back to your area and sit down to write a love letter to yourself. Here are some prompts:
- I love you because...
- I'm so proud that you...
- You've shown resilience in the way you've...
- I'm so sorry for...
- I want to heal...
- The ways I want to spend more time with you are...
- You deserve...
- I love the way you....
- Ways I'm going to show how much I love you...
Keep this letter once you've written it, just like you would a letter someone else sends you. Refer back to it frequently.
7. Self-love oracle/tarot spread
If you pull cards, here is a spread you can use to connect with the Divine and your higher self. My favorite deck is Goddess Guidance. It's specific enough but leaves room for interpretation.
- How can I connect with my Higher Self
- Something beautiful about me
- What do I need to heal
- Focus on this to begin the healing process
- Outcome of healing yourself
- Message from the Universe
If you're interested in learning how to pull cards or to see which decks are my favorite, you can check out my blog post here.
8. Self-love meditation
End your ritual by first opening up the gift you gave yourself and then by laying down and listening to this healing guided meditation for self-love and releasing the past (all of Robin's meditations are beautiful, I highly recommend them).
Allow yourself to be open and receive your own love and the healing energy from the Universe. And maybe make this ritual something you schedule in for yourself throughout the year? 🙂
I hope you enjoyed this post. What's one of your favorite ways to love and heal yourself? I as well as other readers would love to know, so please let us know in the comments below.
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Jessica Dimas is the creator of Manifesting Magic with the Moon.
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This was such a great article and really came at a time where I need to do things like this. I’m a new reader to your blog, and I can’t wait to see more from you! Thank you <3
So glad we've crossed paths LeeAnne, and I hope you continue to find inspiration here <3
I've been struggling with self care for eons. This post really resonated with me. Thank you for sharing, I plan on doing this just for me!
Thank you DJ, I hope you did the ritual and enjoyed it <3
You are absolutely fabulous and magical. I love every word you write and resonate so much. I am trying to bring shifts. Move inwards and make space for self love and self care.. yet I am not there in practice yet. I hope to and want to. I did get the Manifesting magic with the moon anfd Self Care for moms from your lovely collection.
How beautiful! This is something I'm going to definitely be doing. I have your moon sheets and I love them. I just love your blog. Thank you for your inspiring words!
What a lovely article to read and so very necessary for all women to find time to do. Thank you!
I'm glad you enjoyed the article and I completely agree <3
Thank you so much for this wonderful ritual. It will be a guidance for me.
Awesome, glad you found some inspiration from it 🙂
I know this post is from a few years back but this is exactly what I needed to read. I already had plans to do a self love ritual this Friday but your post just kicked it up a few notches. I will most definitely implement some of your suggestions into my ritual. Thank you for the invaluable information, know someone will be using this to good use on Friday💞