How can you tell the difference between spiritual bypassing and conscious creation? Well, it’s all within your personal perception, but since it’s such a hot topic, I thought I’d create a blog post sharing how I see it.
In this article we’ll discuss what spiritual bypassing is, what conscious creation is, and how to navigate between the two.
What is spiritual bypassing?
Spiritual bypassing, a term coined by a man named John Elwood in the 1980’s, refers to the “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks.”
To me, spiritual bypassing is ignoring or denying a persistent, habitual emotion within one’s self that doesn’t serve you. I feel it’s also denying the validity of another’s experience and lacking compassion for that person in the name of being spiritually more aware.
I don’t believe that we need to go dig into every single emotion that we experience, but if there’s something that keeps coming up and haunting you, or that you’ve really gathered momentum around, then that is a persistent emotion that could use some tending to and releasing.
I also don’t believe that we should get emotionally wrapped up in another’s place of disconnectedness, because then both of you go under the water, but we can hold space for them from a place of love and knowing that they are powerful creators in the midst of contrast.
Your true self holds nothing but love for yourself and others. It never believes you shouldn’t be where you are or that something has gone wrong. It believes the same of others.
What is conscious creation?
Conscious creation is using the power of your focus, assumption, and belief to manifest thought into form.
In order to consciously step into a new reality, one must overlook what their current reality tells them through their physical senses. They understand that current reality is a by-product of past thoughts and beliefs, and that it can be changed at anytime with new thoughts and beliefs.
There are potential realities all around us in non-physical form. We truly do live in the matrix and need to understand that physical reality is only an end result of past thoughts and beliefs. We have to remember that non-physical is just as real as the things we think we’re hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting, and touching.
This is the next step in our evolution, in my opinion. Tapping into the power of consciousness to create a new and better world. The higher we go in consciousness, the more love, peace, and joy we will experience as a collective.
Examples of spiritual bypassing
Because this concept can be hard to pin down, I’m going to give a few examples of what spiritual bypassing can look like.
- Ignoring a painful emotion (fear, anger, sadness) that keeps coming up within you
- Denying or scoffing at the validity of someone else’s perspective (every perspective holds truth, even if it’s a veiled illusion draped over the eternal truth of love)
- Believing that contrast (pain, suffering, hard times, unwanted things) has no value and therefore denying its presence in your life or in the life of others
- Condemning or judging the contrast others are experiencing (“you’re focusing on the wrong thing, therefore your contrast isn’t valid”)
- Basically denying the physical, human aspect of this life experience to your own disadvantage
Conscious vs unconscious creation
We are all creating in every moment, whether it be consciously or unconsciously. You can choose to consciously create your reality or create by default, but either way, you are attracting your reality by way of your continual thoughts, emotions and beliefs.
This is what trips a lot of people up because they find it uncomfortable and even a form of victim-blaming (and actually, a lot of people think this is spiritual bypassing) when they’re told that they attracted unwanted experiences into their life.
I see it as a universal law, like gravity. Just because you slip and fall down the stairs doesn’t mean you intended to do it, but you took a wrong step and gravity isn’t going to suspend you in mid air just because you didn’t intend to do it.
Just because you didn’t intend to attract unwanted experiences doesn’t mean you didn’t attract them. We have ALL attracted unwanted things. That’s contrast and it holds a purpose. It’s up to you to let that contrast provide you the clarity with which you will line up with and move towards.
If you keep complaining about the contrast, saying you didn’t create it and you’re a victim, you’re going to stay in the place of contrast. You’re going to keep falling down the stairs.
When you consciously create, you align your beliefs and emotions to match what you want to experience. You raise your vibrational frequency so that you become a match for higher vibrational realities.
If you want to create health, you would move in that direction by knowing there is a perfectly healthy version of you in the matrix and living from that perspective. To create wealth, you begin to feel abundant and release limiting beliefs (money is bad, the rich are greedy, life isn’t fair).
You shift in mind first and physical proof comes afterwards.
5 ways to consciously create without spiritually bypassing
So how can we consciously create without spiritually bypassing? Or how to not spiritually bypass but consciously create? Here are some ideas.
1. Sort out & acknowledge your emotions
If you’re new to all of this, or if it’s just been awhile since you checked in with yourself, it really helps to have a brain dump journaling session so that you can sort out what you’re even feeling.
This helps so much to release pent up emotions, of which you’ll easily release the majority. If you start journaling once a week to sort out emotions, you will begin to see a pattern, if there is one, of emotions that seem to have a grasp on you.
Acknowledge these emotions. They aren’t YOU, but just indicators of where you’ve been placing your attention or what you’ve been wrongly believing about yourself/others/life.
Don’t identify yourself with them but rather recognize that they’re letting you know you aren’t in alignment with what your soul knows to be true. Jealously is letting you know that you have some limiting beliefs around what you believe is possible for you, but you aren’t the emotion of jealously.
- Lately I’ve been feeling…
- What’s coming up for me currently…
2. Align with what you do want
Once you’ve brain-dumped your emotions and feelings, recognize the most painful aspect of current reality that has you upset. Pinpoint the main emotions and their causes, and then begin to lean towards their opposites.
The purpose of journaling is to acknowledge, ease, and release strong emotions and use them as jumping off points towards what you do want.
- I’ve been feeling (enter emotion) because I perceive (enter cause)
- I want to begin feeling…
- It would be so fun/awesome if the following was my reality:
- If this was my reality, I would feel…
By identifying these things, you get into the feeling place of what you’re desiring by using your current contrast to clarify the direction you want to go in.
3. Release limiting beliefs
Look at the reality you wish to manifest and see what comes up for you in the form of beliefs. Your ego will likely be spouting off all kinds of negative downers like “Oh get real, that’s not possible and you know it” or maybe more along the lines of “None of your friends/family will relate to you if you shift into this reality.”
Take out a sheet of paper or use the self-limiting beliefs worksheet from the law of attraction bundle. If you’re using a sheet, draw a line down the middle. At the top, write out what it is you’re wanting to manifest.
On the left-hand side, write out all the probable reasons why it’s not really possible (this is a great way to bring subconscious self-limiting beliefs to the surface).
Once you do that, on the right-hand side of the paper begin countering each limiting belief with an improved belief that serves your vision.
For the desire to manifest more abundance, this could look like:
- “I don’t even know where to start.” ➡ “I don’t have to know where to start, it will be shown to me.”
- “I don’t want to sacrifice time for more money.” ➡ “Abundance is not dependent upon time…money flows to some people while they sleep.”
- “People might see me as a greedy person.” ➡ “People project their own limiting beliefs onto others, of which hold no truth in reality.”
- “”I’ve never had money and I’ll probably never have it.” ➡ “Reality shifts according to current beliefs, not old ones.””
You just sort of counter every negative Nellie thing your ego says with something that is true of our universal laws.
4. Hold compassion while remaining in love
We are all God-beings here in human form. We have this ego that tells us we’re separate from the universe and each other, and we go in and out most days of being in connection with our true selves and then pinching ourselves off from the Source of love.
When we’re disconnected, we only see a reality that our ego paints for us, and it ain’t pretty. But we all experience it. As we consciously lean more into love and away from the ego, we can hold compassion for those that are believing the story their ego is presenting to them instead of reacting to it.
Abraham Hicks calls it a step one moment, when you’re in that contrast experiencing things you don’t want to experience. We all have step one moments, even when we’re experiencing spiritual enlightenment. No one is immune to them and you wouldn’t want to be–contrast fuels desire and expansion.
So rather than ignore, berate, or judge yourself or another for having a step one moment, move into a place of compassion, love, and understanding.
Everyone comes from a place of innocence. The ego is mostly run by our inner child who felt scared, unloved, unheard, or ignored. Wherever you are is okay, and wherever someone else is standing is okay too. You have to let it be okay for them in order for it to be okay for you. They are you.
In this beautiful matrix consisting of constant projection and reflection back to ourselves, we see that we are always being called towards love. We free ourselves by freeing others of condemnation or judgement of any kind.
5. Understand the purpose of contrast
Contrast serves a very important purpose, so it doesn’t need to be ignored, swept under the rug, or condemned. It sharpens your desire for what you do want.
Contrast are those things that don’t feel good and that you don’t want. But here’s the kicker: the longer you dwell there, the more you believe the contrast is “truth”, the more you fight against it, and the bigger the contrast gets.
You cannot vibrate in the place of contrast and attract the solution. They are on completely different vibrational frequencies.
They key is to acknowledge the contrast and let it clarify what you do want, and begin moving in that direction. As you move towards what you want, you naturally attract the solution.
Take your perspective up above the trees and look down from the viewpoint of your soul. Realize that you are an eternal being who has come here many times, in many different roles. Can there really be any accidents? Can you really mess it up so horribly bad? Not really.
And can you see that from this higher viewpoint, that this is all a deliciously fun game? That you and others are not defined by the roles, emotions, and perspectives we’re currently holding. It’s all in the name of expansion, fun, and joy.
We’re in the ultimate virtual reality game called life. And just like in a game, when we take off our headsets and are back in our “true” reality, we laugh and exclaim what great fun that was. We’re all BFFs behind the screen. Yes, even that one person that gets on your nerves the most. In fact, they’re probably one of your soulmates.
Contrast holds purpose. Acknowledge it. Let it clarify your direction, and then move towards it. Don’t condemn it in yourself or others. All of it holds such perfection when viewed from a higher perspective.
Thank you for reading, I hope you enjoyed this article and found something to take away with you.
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