When you can begin to truly value yourself, your world starts to shift in beautiful, subtle ways. You are happier, more confident, and more loving. You are less drained, triggered, and anxious.
In this article, I'll share what it means to value yourself and suggest some mindset shifts to help you see yourself in a new light.
What does value yourself mean?
Valuing the self is simply acknowledging that you hold purpose and are no more and no less than any other being that exists.
You begin to understand that others' reactions to you as you were growing up were never a reflection of what you actually are. You are intrinsically good and so much more than the filtered identity you have taken on in this lifetime.
When we see the value in our existence, we value our time, desires, and thoughts. We stop second-guessing ourselves so much and asking for outside opinions.
This is not to say that we value others less; we recognize that we are all valuable and connected to a larger part of ourselves that is always guiding us. What is right for one person might not be right for us, and we respect all paths.
In fact, when we hold true value for ourselves, we naturally see the inherent value in others. You can only see in others what you first see in yourself.
How to value yourself
There are many ways a person can come to the perspective and realization that they hold value. I will share some ways that have helped me and suggest how this can look.
Let's get the wheels turning in our minds because we begin seeing things we missed before when that happens!
1. Acknowledge your divinity
For me, the foundation of feeling into that place of valuing the self is remembering that I am consciousness, sending a portion of myself into this experience known as Jessica.
I am looking through these eyes and experiencing this life, but I am not defined by it. Rather, I am expanded because of it.
For example, you are not your past. You are not even really the child of the people you think are your parents. You are vast, deep, and eternal, and not one person in your life can truly see the magnitude of everything that you are. Nor can you fully see them!
Simply said–you are energy, here in human form for a short while, and can never be defined by surface earthly definitions.
You existed before you got here and will exist after you leave. We are energy, and energy is never destroyed. You came from somewhere else, and you will continue on once this life is finished.
I really try to grasp this concept, difficult as it may be. We are ancient (in our terms), wise beyond words, and multidimensional creators of realities. Put that in your pipe and smoke on it 😎
2. Learn more about yourself
It has helped me tremendously to learn more about consciousness itself because it's hard to conceptualize.
Some books I highly recommend reading that will shift your perspective on not only yourself but every other person in the world are the following:
A powerful meditation practice that produces some of the most astounding experiences is Mind Awake Body Asleep. In this practice, you lie down and allow your body to fall asleep while your mind remains conscious.
It's easier said than done, especially at first, but even if you fall asleep, you're likely to experience very unusual and vivid dreams, many of which are precognitive.
I suggest this meditation practice because it will help you connect with the expanded part of yourself that you typically filter out to focus on day-to-day reality.
When you can experience for yourself how much more you are beyond this physical body, it's hard to keep seeing yourself as small or unworthy.
Other side effects of this practice include lucid dreams, out-of-body experiences, astral travel to other dimensions and time periods, and the opening of psychic abilities.
It can take a few months, though, as you warm up and get comfortable with the sensations, sounds, and visions that come while going deeper. Remember that everything is energy, and consciousness isn't bound by space or time.
3. Practice receiving
When we don't see the value in ourselves, we also don't allow others to see it. This can range from small gestures, such as letting someone hold a door open for you, to charging higher rates for your services.
Because I can still get uncomfortable receiving from others, I prefer to turn all of this into a game I play with the universe—a love-affair of sorts.
The universe is my provider, and people, places, and things are the avenues through which love, joy, and delight are funneled to me.
When I'm tuned in and connected, doors are held open, smiles are given, discounts are received, support is offered, and love is experienced. And if I can't think of it as a deserving thing, I think of it as a vibrational result of being happy.
Fully receive that gift. Accept the support. Take the compliment. Practice letting love flow in your life. The more you do, the more you feel into that place of worthiness and self-love.
Because, in essence, it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you valuing yourself enough to receive.
By practicing receiving, it turns into a feeling that then leads to a deeper acceptance of your inherent value as a conscious being.
4. Honor yourself
In my personal experience of not seeing value in myself, I have lacked the awareness that my thoughts, wishes, and desires matter.
Not honoring one's desires is often in our blind spots, so knowing when we're doing it can be hard. One easy practice that I got from Abraham Hicks has helped me with this, and that is simply asking myself throughout the day, "What would be fun to do now?".
You will likely always have an answer. I ask myself this question not only when I'm alone but even more so when I'm being pulled in opposite directions by other people around me.
Generally, I like to remain in an open place energetically. I'm open to doing whatever the day brings and am not super picky about where I eat, what we do, and how things unfold overall.
But there are times when I'm certain I don't want to do what's being suggested or asked. I'd rather nap, write, or stay home. Those are the times I practice honoring what I really want to do.
Doing things from a place of guilt is a clue that you aren't valuing yourself. Feeling resentment is another one. When you value yourself, you stay in alignment with your inner being more often than not.
In conclusion
Value your thoughts; don't apologize for them. Value your time; don't let others waste it. Value your desires; you have them for a good reason.
Learning to value yourself is a practice. I don't get things right every day, but I've stopped beating myself up over it. That's part of valuing myself–I am always learning and expanding.
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Jessica
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Jen
Could you give a link to the mind awake body asleep meditation that you do? Thank you very much!
Jessica Dimas
Hi Jen! There are a few on Youtube, most of them are for the intention of astral projection, but this method in general opens you up to so much. Here's a link to one https://youtu.be/XfPLC_LQb5k
I also recommend these two books: "Adventures Beyond the Body" by William Buhlman, and "Seth, Dreams, and Projections of Consciousness" by Jane Roberts. Both are excellent for learning more about the psychic phenomena that happens with this type of meditation.