When you can begin to truly value yourself, your world starts to shift in beautiful, subtle ways. You are more happy, confident, and loving. You are less drained, triggered, and anxious.
In this article, I'm going to share what it means to value yourself, along with some mindset shifts to begin seeing yourself in a new way.
What does value yourself mean?
Valuing the self is to simply acknowledge that you hold purpose, and are no more and no less than any other being that exists.
You begin to understand that others' reactions to you as you were growing up were never a reflection of what you actually are. That you are intrinsically good and so much more than this filtered identity you have taken on in this lifetime.
When we can see the value in our existence, we begin to value our time, desires, and thoughts. We stop second guessing ourselves so much and asking for outside opinions.
This is not to say that we value others less, we just recognize that we are all valuable and connected to a larger part of ourselves that is always guiding us. What is right for one person might not be right for us, and there is a respect for all paths.
In fact, when we hold true value for ourselves, we naturally see the inherent value in others. You can only see in others what you first see in yourself.
How to value yourself
There are many ways a person can come to the perspective and realization that they hold value. I'm going to share some ways that have helped me, just to give you some suggestions for how this can look.
Let's get the wheels turning in our minds because when that happens, we begin seeing things we missed before!
1. Acknowledge your divinity
For me, the foundation of feeling into that place of valuing the self is remembering that I am consciousness, sending a portion of myself into this experience known as Jessica.
I am looking through these eyes and experiencing this life, but I am not defined by it. Rather, I am expanded because of it.
For example, you are not your past. You are not even really the child of the people you think are your parents. You are vast, deep, and eternal, and not one person in your life can truly see the magnitude of everything that you are. Nor can you fully see them!
Simply said–you are energy, here in human form for a short while, and can never be defined by surface earthly definitions.
You existed before you got here, and will exist after you leave. We are energy, and energy is never destroyed. You came from somewhere else, and you will continue on once this life is finished.
I really try to grasp this concept, difficult as it may be. We are ancient (in our terms), wise beyond words, and multidimensional creators of realities. Put that in your pipe and smoke on it 😎
2. Learn more about yourself
It has helped me tremendously to learn more about consciousness itself, because it's hard to conceptualize.
Some books I highly recommend reading that will shift your perspective on not only yourself, but every other person in the world, are the the following:
A powerful meditation practice that produces some of the most astounding experiences is Mind Awake Body Asleep. You simply lay down and allow the body to fall asleep while your mind remains conscious.
It's easier said than done, especially at first, but even if you fall asleep you're likely to experience very unusual and vivid dreams, many which are precognitive.
I suggest this meditation practice here because it will get you in touch with the expanded part of yourself that you typically filter out in order to focus on day-to-day reality.
When you can experience for yourself how much more you are beyond this physical body, it's hard to keep seeing yourself as small or unworthy.
Other side effects of this practice are lucid dreams, out of body experiences, astral travel to other dimensions and time periods, and the opening of psychic abilities.
It can take a few months though as you warm up and get comfortable with sensations, sounds, and visions that come while going deeper. Remember that everything is energy, and consciousness isn't bounded by space or time.
3. Practice receiving
When we don't see the value in ourselves, a side effect is that we don't allow others to either. This can range from things as small as letting someone hold a door open for you to charging higher rates for your services.
Because I can still get uncomfortable receiving from others, I prefer to turn all of this into a game I play with the universe. A love-affair of sorts.
The universe being my provider, and people, places, and things being the avenues through which love, joy, and delight are funneled to me.
When I'm tuned in and connected, doors are held open, smiles are given, discounts received, support offered, and love experienced. And if I can't think of it as a deserving thing, I think of it as a vibrational result of being happy.
Fully receive that gift. Accept the support. Take the compliment. Practice letting love flow in your life. The more that you do, the more you begin to feel into that place of worthiness and self-love.
Because in essence, it has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with you valuing yourself enough to receive.
By practicing receiving, it turns into a feeling that then leads into a deeper acceptance of your inherent value as a conscious being.
4. Honor yourself
In my own personal experience with not seeing the value in myself, I have lacked the awareness that my thoughts, wishes, and desires matter.
Not honoring ones own desires is most often in our blind spots, so it can be hard to know when we're doing it. One easy practice that I got from Abraham Hicks has really helped me with this, and that is simply asking myself throughout the day "What would be fun to do now?".
You will likely always have an answer. I ask myself this question not only when I'm alone, but even more so when I'm being pulled in opposite directions from other people around me.
Generally, I like to remain in an open place energetically. I'm open to doing whatever the day brings and am not super picky about where I eat, what we do, and how things unfold overall.
But there are times when I know for sure I don't want to do what's being suggested or asked. I'd rather nap, or write, or stay home. Those are the times I practice honoring what it is I really want to do.
Doing things from a place of guilt is a clue that you aren't valuing yourself. Feeling resentment is another one. When you are valuing yourself, you are staying in alignment with your inner being more often than not.
Value your thoughts; don't apologize for them. Value your time; don't let others waste it. Value your desires; you have them for a good reason.
Learning to value yourself is a practice. I don't get things right every day, but I've stopped beating myself up over it. That's part of valuing myself–I am always learning and expanding.
Thank you for reading, I hope you enjoyed this article and found something to take away with you.
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Jessica Dimas is the creator of Manifesting Magic with the Moon, a holistic self-care ritual bundle.